Dowry system....A social evil

Introduction

Here.... I am talking about a very much prevalent and a dreadful social evil.... DOWRY System. It has been huge problem in India and has been a great problem and source of embarrassment and disturbances in most parts of our society...

Dowry actually is a cultural system where the parents of the bride give away some money, expensive gifts to her so that in case of lack of resources she can lead a comfortable life ahead after marriage. Historically, this system was willingly followed by the parents of the bride in many parts of the world, but now at many places (especially in India) it is it is being forcefully asked for. Earlier the system was prevalent only in the wealthier families but now unfortunately the greed of dowry has struck to most ordinary families and has become an unspoken demand for marriages.

It is true that a young man may require financial support to settle comfortably in his life and to fulfill other needs, but it should not be a reason to ask for dowry and to spoil the life of a girl if both the girl and boy are capable in all the ways to earn and settle with a comfortable life. Gifts that a girl gets from her parents home should solely be their wish and there should be no pressure to spend more while marrying their daughter. There are many instances when a wife commits suicide, because of her helplessness to tolerate the harassment for dowry. There are many instances when a wife is murdered because her parents were not able to give enough dowry. This murder is usually made like an accident. Stop violence against women! Legally, dowry is a banned practice in India but still happens all over the place. Many sensible and educated youths have gone against the idea of Dowry and they simply have a noble intention of marrying the without taking any money. Surprisingly, these days the ladies are themselves very much interested for huge amounts of dowry. Firstly the promise of all the marriage arrangements and then the huge amounts of dowry make the parents financially very weak and because of dowry system, people no longer prefer having a baby girl in India.

Dowry law in India
Dowry was prohibited in 1961 under Indian civil law and followed by Sections 304B and 498a of the Indian Penal Code. Individuals involved in dowry can be sent to jail for 6 months to 3 years. This includes husband, Father-In-Law, Mother-In-Law or any other relatives or non-relatives found guilty. It can also include fine. But if a murder is committed then there is at least a 7 year or life in prison, plus fine.

People contact police, media organizations and women liberation outfits to get maximum attention and this way ladies misuse this law by accusing boy’s family wrongly for dowry because of some personal tensions. This becomes very problematic for the family who faces.

Lastly I would just say that like I am strictly against this practice of dowry every one of us should join hands and remove this social evil from our society……

Take care and have a great time…..

One thing I wanted to share...

I am Loving it...

Exams are over by now and I am loving this time now....
After it is all over I can realise that why I was going through such a stressful time for so long....
I think all this happened bcoz i missed my classes whatever the reason may be like I wasn't well I had to take leaves, i had to give some more time to my tennis practices and third and most importantly I was overconfident as I was told that class 11th has to be taken lightly and this made me less serious...
Dear readers any class is niether very light or very difficult, it only depends on the way you take it. Pleasure activities are all the more important, it is just that we should give separate attention to both the things and everthing becomes simple(- or complicated) so it is only we who decide how to take this. I have realised the importance attending all the lectures in the class. One has to be both mentally and physically present in the class coz this actually make things easier to go through and then learn at home. It is just that i never faced such a stress and ne'er studied so much at home.... And by this I can judge my performance has also gone down this time. The reason is when you can understand things in the class the only left task is to read it once at home and you will find everthing already 'imprinted' in your minds. I think this is one of the best methods of stress management, even meditation helps a lot..... try this you'll definitely find this useful.
They say,
Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness. ~Richard Carlson
so why not...
Give your stress wings and let it fly away. ~Carin Hartness

Take care n have a great time....

Exams Ke Bhoot Se Bachao.....

Yes, This is what i am feeling right now. God somebody help me!!!!!!!!
I am not getting time for anything. At nights when i sleep the mathematical and accounting problems are just revolving in my mind. Even at nights I am busy solving questions in my copies the roots, trigonometric identities, cash books, journals etc etc. it is a long list and you know what this is the time when I feel like doing lot many new things. I have numerous creative ideas bulging in my mind.I think this is what happens with almost every student (like me i.e. who study in the last days of the exams). I just wanna say SORRY to all my dear blog visitors for not updating the blog hereby.

“Why Study For Exams.... Are they not about what you know, not about how much you can cram into your head the night before?”

This is what everyone here 'suffering' from Exam Fever should read again and again. Just read it and console yourself because this is what one can do at the extreme moment.

But they say,

“Those who do not study are only cattle dressed up in men's clothes”

So, at the end we have to study whatever may the situation be. One thing we can do is that just think about the time when the exams are over and its a party time for everybody coz this is what i do and the time passes away happily ever after.....
Wishing everyone luck!
ALL THE BEST!!

Righteousness

Where there is righteousness in heart,
There is beauty in character
Where there is beauty in character,
There is harmony at the home
Where there is harmony at the home,
There is order in nation
Where there is order in nation,
There is peace in the world...........
A Hymn



APJ Abdul Kalam

Child Labour.. A Social Evil..

One in these days I saw some child labourers, one was a house maid, the other one was a sweeper and the third one was doing a job of washing utensils and clothes in a restaurant. My heart brimmed with tears when I saw their condition. With a heavy heart when I asked them for why they didn't go to study, "Who will work and earn money for the livelihood of my family?" they said.

The ever increasing problem of child labour is not only cruelty against children but also a black spot on our nation's face. Though many countries boast of being superior from one another but in many of the developing countries like India, the problem of child labour is still prevalent.

People sell their children for money, they are treated as slaves. Population play a lead role in the rise of child labour. People should understand if giving birth to more children means more helping hands, it also means more mouths to feed. In large but illiterate families children are forced to work. They are badly exploited. They are given more and more work but are underpaid. Most of the times, the working conditions are hazardous which make them vulnerable to various health problems. Poor they are, their childhood which is the most happening phase of ones life is spent like this……

To control this problem, various measures should be strictly adopted not only by the government but also by the common man. The one who keeps a child as labourer should be strictly punished. Awareness programmes such as street plays or counselling of the poor and illiterate may contribute further.

“All the problems of the world - child labor, corruption - are symptoms of a spiritual disease: lack of compassion.”

I think most of us feel the same... Please make others also feel this and control child labour... Today the power lie in our hands, it is just we have to seek the right way to use it…

The Right To Information Act...

One in these days I was reading about one of the most recent and important right of the citizens of India i.e. The Right To Information Act.
A common man, while dealing with Government departments was facing with problems such as cumbersome process, faulty procedure, mismanagement of records, uneasiness even in paying govt taxes to the govt.With a view to bring transparency in the functioning, to create a sense of responsibility amongst the govt. officials right from grass root level up to the top decision making level, to uproot the corruption ,THE RIGHT TO INFORMATION ACT, is in force, which is likely to be proved a very useful tool in the hands of citizens to get their grievances against the govt. redressed , in a time bound manner.Now citizens are enjoying the fruits of real democracy, by asking the questions from any government organisation easily and more frequently, for which the citizens were dependent on our elected representatives. Any type of information which the govt. or govt. funded/controlled institutions are supposed to have can be demanded by any citizen from anywhere in the country, without disclosing any reason for seeking the information.
As A Social Audit!
The queries, under this act, may bring in the lime light, the acts of omissions and commissions, including cases of harassment, inaction, undue favour, corruption, abuse of power by the officials of govt.Therefore, this way it works as a SOCIAL AUDIT. It facilitates the well informed citizen to live with dignity and contentment.
Towards A Negative Aspect!
Since, the citizens have the freedom to ask any query from the govt. and its respective funded or supported organisations, many times people misuse this right. Just for small inquiries many kinds of confidential secrets are driven out which leads to many undesirable events.Moreover, it becomes very inconvenient for the govt. organisations to take out and give away such important documents and informative history of that particular body.

The Woman Of Today....

The women of today, she starts her life full of poise
Any hurdle, any block – she crosses with rejoice
She knows how to win…. through combat or through peace
She shines as a star, and excels at ease.

Looks beyond the horizon and takes off into the blues
Keeping intact her ethics, her belief, her values
Powered by her parents, she flies the high skies
However, high she goes, she never loses her ties

She steps into a profession with a zeal to perform
transmitting fun, joy, pleasure and a mood to transform
She takes with enthusiasm her given responsibility
Work hard, proves herself and gets lauded for her ability

Then she walks into a marriage, with lots of cheer
Driving into the next stage of life in full gear
To give him her best, to make him hers and to become his
Looking forward to pleasure, joy and happiness and bliss

Days getting tighter, work more tough
Time starts looking to be just enough
Spliced between work and time for company
However still keeping up her amateur symphony

Then comes into her life, God’s biggest boon
A tiny little blessing, a cute blooming moon
It fills her life with warmth, with a sense of pride
Carries her into motherhood stride

And slowly she gets back to reality, true and wild
Manage business, in-laws, husband, and child
And again she adapts, and her focus realigned
Gets her act in place, her priorities redesigned

In the process some critical desire she forgoes
To strikes a balance and meet the needs of her folks
She takes up her life as it comes with joy and cheer
To keep the smile gleaming on the faces of her near and dear

To all those who read this, I have a request today
If you agree with me, please do say
A small thanks to your mother, and to your wife
For all that they have done to make up your life..

Sandhya Sriram

Gautam Buddha

These days I have been reading on Gautam Buddha, in his respective biographies. While reading about him, his life, and his doings I really found him an inspiring character.

Buddha means 'the enlightened one'. And Gautam Buddha was one of the greatest religious teachers that the world has seen. His teachings expounded in Buddhism, are immensely popular in Burma, China, Japan and other South Eastern Countries.

Talking about his early life……….Siddhartha was made to lead a very sheltered life as the astrologers had predicted that he would give up worldly pleasures to follow a different path. The King wanted to avoid this at all costs and so did not let him out of the palace. He hoped that Siddhartha would one day become king.

When Siddhartha had grown into an intelligent young man, he ventured out of his palace one day, and chanced on a few sights that changed the course of his life. He first saw a very old man who could barely walk, a sick man who was in a great deal of pain, and lastly a corpse. He had never been exposed to pain before, and so these sights had a deep effect on him. His servant explained that pain and death were inevitable.

All these sights disturbed him and he went out of his house, leaving all the amenities of life in the search of truth and the end of pain and misery. When he went through many people who were following the same path, he himself concluded that when one follows a midway between very easy or happy going life and very harsh and painful life, we can overcome all desires which are the root causes of grief and misery.

For 45 years, Buddha spread his message of a spiritual life. He did not believe in rituals but pointed to an 8 - fold path towards salvation - that of right speech, understanding, determination, deeds, efforts, awareness, thinking and living. Even in the contemporary world which we call modern, live on the discriminatory bases of rich or poor or castes etc. Whereas as he at those times taught us to live a life of equality where none was inferior or superior. He taught us to be non-violent and the path of peaceful life, he said the life is a gift of god to everyone and none has a right to take it away accept for god. Though being purely non-violent Buddhist path affected people of this religion with miserable happenings in their lives when they could not save themselves from the attackers especially in the areas at the borders of Pakistan and Afghanistan which had a strong hold of Buddhism. Now these areas are totally Muslim and Buddhism is completely wiped out. What is left there is violent Taliban who recently broke the sacred old and preserved statue of Gautama Buddha.

Anyway, The Buddha died in 483 BC at the ripe age of 80 years, after successfully spreading his message to the world. Buddhism still lives and has a strong following in various Asian countries.